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Early Natural Miscarriage

After discussions with your doctor, you may have decided to let nature take its course and miscarry naturally at home, rather than have a Dilation and Curettage (D&C). It's important for you to ask as many questions about what to expect with having a natural miscarriage up to 12/13 weeks in gestation.

Some parents have chosen to stay in the privacy of their own home. This may be more emotionally comfortable for you. When talking with your doctor please ask them what to expect as it can range from a normal period through to agonizing pain, depending on the gestation or size of your baby. If the situation becomes worse than expected, always call or go to the hospital.

The bleeding and cramping usually begins lightly and then may get heavier and more painful as your cervix dilates to expel your baby and the surrounding tissue. This may occur over a few days. The bleeding may continue for a couple of weeks.

It is important that your miscarriage is complete, where all the tissue from conception has been expelled. If this does not occur, you may have to have a D&C. A blood test or follow up ultrasound will provide you with the necessary information.

If you feel you would like to have tests done for reasons behind your miscarriage, please collect any fetal tissue, place into a clean container immediately and take to your doctor.

Most early miscarriages pass without noticing your baby as it’s just too tiny to determine. Some miscarriages are from a blighted ovum so no baby will be present. Some miscarriages occur very quickly after diagnosis, while others may take days to weeks to begin bleeding. Your individual situation will determine what you will see and be able to retain. We hope that your doctor is able to provide you with sound information and best practice for the management of your loss.

Ask questions

  • What happens when I miscarry?
  • How painful will it be?
  • What will I see? Will I see my baby?
  • What will my baby look like?
  • What can I do with my baby once it passes?
  • Can I find out the sex of the baby?
  • Can I get testing done on my baby for possible reasons? (some doctors only recommend this if experiencing recurrent miscarriage. However, you do have a right to do this if you want to.)
  • What do I need to do for testing to be done?
  • How long will I bleed for?
  • How will I know if my miscarriage was complete or not?
  • Will I need to have a follow-up ultrasound?
  • How long should I wait to begin to try again?

Things to consider

  • Organising time off work
  • Having someone there to support you
  • Having warm showers, hot water bottles
  • Having Pain killers in your handbag and at home
  • Sanitary Napkins in your handbag and at home